17. They try to seek love and acceptance.
As with finding a purpose, they’re also trying to find love and acceptance from those around them. They may strive to be a people-pleaser so that other people will like them. Also, it’s that seeking love and acceptance that they hide their inner demons. They want to be attractive to other people so that they can be seen as a friend. Not everyone is equipped to deal with the ugly head of depression, so it’s kept hidden to spare others from that discomfort. The goal is not to be dishonest but to appear as the best version of them possible.
Unhappy individuals have conflicting feelings of wanting to disconnect and distance from others while also wanting to feel like they are part of something. They want to feel connected to their family and friends and like they are wanting. However, it can be challenging as feeling too engaged can be overwhelming and cause them to feel out of control.