17. Your life is your own
No one is going to live your life for you, and neither can you live someone else’s life. So stop being so envious of others and comparing your life to theirs. You have no idea what they have been through or what they are going through.
Social media has had a considerable impact on our envious nature. You don’t often see posts about how things are going. You only get the vanilla version with all the smiles and good times, but they can be few and far in between.
The only thing you are doing is making yourself depressed by longing for the things you don’t have. In the end, you miss out on what you already have and take it for granted. Your life is your own; live it with the people around you. Share with them the good and the bad, not just an edited version.
16. No one dictates your happiness
Being human is amazing in part because we are blessed with choice. Everything we do and don’t do is governed by choice. We often get it wrong and make bad choices, but we also often learn from those mistakes.
Your happiness is also a choice, and no one can dictate or take charge of your happiness but you. You are the only one who is in charge when it comes to your happiness. It goes hand in hand with being content. Not everyone has the same capabilities, fortune, wealth, health, looks, etc., but all of us can decide when something is enough.
When you accept who you are and the circumstances you find yourself in, you tend to become more relaxed. The pressure to keep up with the Jones gone, and you can be happy. However, you have to make a choice and stick to it. Otherwise, you will forever be searching for happiness.
15. What will it matter in five years?
Depending on how old you are, you have probably been through a couple of bad times in your life. In some cases it’s self-inflicted, and in others, you were the unsuspecting casualty. The fact is, all of us face some sort of personal disaster at some point.
In most cases, you can ask yourself what it will matter in five years, and before you know it, the seeming disaster becomes a trivial comedy of errors — something to laugh about when you look back at the scenario.
Not all problems and disasters won’t matter in five years’ time. However, when you break the situation down, and you can honestly say that what you’re currently dealing with won’t matter a thing in five years, you can get over the disaster in no time.
We are masters at blowing stuff out of proportion and giving more thought to stuff that doesn’t matter.
14. It is better to give than receive
I have had my fair share of run-ins with stingy rich people and to be honest, I pity them. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t mind having a bit of extra cash now and then, but what I have found was that sharing the wealth has always felt better than trying to build my solitary kingdom.
Money can never make you happy. Imagine getting on a plane, flying first class to any destination in the world your heart desires and staying in the most expensive hotel. Now imagine doing it alone.
We are social creatures and crave companionship. That is why it is better to give than to receive. That is why we should be generous.
In blessing those around us, we tend to bless ourselves as well. There is no better feeling than making someone else’s day. In doing so, they might end up making your day as well.
13. What others think of you is irrelevant
The world we live in today is incredibly vain, and people are obsessed with what other people think of them, whether good or bad. Some people thrive on what others think and end up becoming someone an entirely different person than who they really are.
The truth is that the only person’s opinion of you that matters is your own. You are the only one who has walked in your shoes and know yourself. You are the only one who can give an accurate judgment on yourself. Therefore, you should never give ear to what other people’s opinion of you are when you know the truth to be different.
Your actions will either confirm or deny judgments and silence the voices of those who have other opinions of you. When you try and fight fire with fire, you are going to get burned. In all circumstances, stay true to yourself, and the rest will see it, too.
12. Time heals everything
It often seems cliché to say time heals everything, especially if you are in the middle of an emotional battle. The last thing you want to hear is that time heals all wounds. However, the saying holds a lot of water.
For some people, the time needed to process the hurt takes longer than for others. That is because time has not been allowed to begin the healing process.
While time is the ultimate healer, you still need to allow it to work. It is like going to any doctor. You can’t expect to get better if you don’t go to the doctor. He or she might be available all the time, but you need to allow them to examine you for a prognosis.
If time is the doctor, you need to allow time to sort out your grief, anger and hurt.
11. All situations change
Most of us have heard that life is like a roller coaster. It has its ups and downs. The saying could not be any truer. However, it often happens that we get stuck in one of the ups or downs and live with the lie that it will never change.
The good news is that not all situations last forever… but that is also the downside.
Neither the bad nor the good times will always be here, which is why it is so important to live in the moment. Don’t ever wish the time away – even the bad times – for it is those moments that you learn.
In the same way, don’t take the good times for granted and assume things will never change. You can never know when things will change and you don’t want to regret not making the most of what you had.
10. Stay in touch
Nowadays, people are obsessed with advancing their careers, so they push crazy hours at the office and neglect the people around them. If there is one thing you should know is that you are not irreplaceable. Long after you have left your job, they will continue without you.
Therefore, don’t neglect your relationships with the people who care about you. Your friends and family deserve your time because they are the ones who will take care of you when you need it most.
That being said, you should always do your best when it comes to your work, but the balance is key. When you start to make excuses for not going out with your friends, you should take a look at your life and ask yourself if it’s worth it. If you are honest, you will see that your friends and family always win.
9. Envy makes you nasty
From time to time, we want something we don’t have and there is nothing wrong with that. However, when you are always unhappy with what you already have, and you envy the lives and possessions of others the entire time, you should take a step back.
You will only make yourself miserable if you envy other people. Never will you have enough, and never will you be content. When you get to this stage, you need to take inventory of what you have and realize that what you have is more than enough.
Envy destroys relationships and lives. It becomes an unhealthy obsession with wanting more and never being satisfied. This is dangerous ground because the people who care about you will start to feel neglected and unwanted, and before you know it, they might be gone.
8. Pray and be thankful
All of us have talents and skills and most of us use these talents and are grateful for them. But there are some of us who become cocky and think more of ourselves than we ought to. If something were to happen to their talents, they become bitter and wonder why it happened to them.
Instead, be thankful for the talents you have and also what you achieve with them. You never know when they can be taken away from you.
Staying humble in our achievements makes us aware of our shortcomings and enables us to do even more and better than we thought we could.
It is when you stay humble that you seek to improve and better yourself. Pride does precisely the opposite. It sells you the idea that you have arrived and hinders you from further development.
7. You are too blessed to be stressed
It cannot be said enough that life is short. That is an understatement. When you hear older people speak, not one of them will tell you that life was prolonged and took them forever to reach that age.
What they will also tell you is that stressing about what you cannot control won’t make you any younger. However, this world markets fear and will keep your thoughts occupied on the multitude of unlikely events of the future.
Insurance companies have this down to a tee. They will prey on your fear and nudge you to dwell on the future which you have no control over. In the end, you spend so much money on ifs, buts and maybes and lose out on living in the present.
Know that you are blessed and that you can only live in the current day, no matter what the media or anyone else says.
They say that fit is the new skinny and many people take this to heart and exercise their lives away. I am not saying those ambitions are wrong, but with everything in life, a healthy balance is more important than overdoing it.
That being said, exercising regularly is essential for your health. You need to stay fit and active. Your heart will love you, your mood will improve and you will lose weight in the process as well. Although this is the most visible way of seeing that someone works out regularly, a person’s state of mind and focus are also increased and improved in the process.
Mix things up and alternate between running, swimming, cycling and other sports. You will never get bored in the process. Soon enough, exercise will have become part of your daily routine, and not something you do just before summer.
5. You are never too old to learn
If there is one thing all humans should do, it is keep on learning and trying new things. Life can become stale when you don’t challenge yourself and explore new ideas.
We tend to hide behind our work schedules and claim that we don’t have time, but no one said you had to pursue a new degree. The internet and online shopping have turned the world into a global village.
All you need to do is whip out your Smartphone and Google one interest or another, and you will be flooded with ideas from across the globe.
The benefit of trying new things is twofold. First, you keep your creative mind intact, and your imagination gets lit like a young kid. Second, you keep your body and mind in shape. Studies have shown that attempting new things increases grey matter in the motor parts of the brain.
4. Live for something other than yourself
We tend to get so wrapped up in our little worlds that we often forget there is a whole world out there. The saddest thing about such a secluded life is that we miss out on what life has to offer.
We all have interests and passions, and what better way is there than to search for an organization or group to share in that passion? Immediately, your world is opened to other people and adventure.
In most cases, you find you have something to offer other than your time in front of a computer in your office. You will see that you can enrich someone else’s life through your skills and experiences.
We were made to interact with other people, and when we can enrich someone else’s life, we also tend to find a sense of purpose for our own.
3. Set goals
I for one seldom set any goals for myself back in the day. It was in those times that I could not move forward. I felt stuck in my job and didn’t see how things were going to change. That was until I started to implement actionable and attainable goals for myself.
When there is no goal you are working for, you waste time on anything and everything. There is very little purpose to what you are doing, and you might even start to feel like you don’t have a purpose.
Setting goals helps you to focus your efforts constructively, and paints an invisible map of the road to success. It provides you with a tool to see if you have grown as a person and gives direction to your future.
If you want to set these goals, try and find someone to whom you can be accountable. They will help you stay on track.
2. It’s not personal
At some point in time, we all have to face rejection. It’s never a fun experience, and it can either ruin your self-esteem, or you can learn from the rejection. Whatever, you do, you should never take rejection personally. You have no idea why your proposal was rejected, or why you were shot down when you asked someone out.
The reasons for the rejection are almost irrelevant because the lesson you stand to learn is priceless. Use the rejection as motivation to improve on yourself. There is no such thing as not good enough; however, there is such a thing as not the right time.
The only thing you need to do is to get back up and go at it again, so you will grow in confidence and mature into a better you.
In general, people are afraid to ask questions. The nature of the problems could either be for help, or it could involve info you want. Regardless, for some odd reason, we tend to fear what the response is going to be, or our pride gets in our way. Either way, we miss out on opportunities if we don’t ask questions.
Despite many people claiming they can read the future, no one can read your mind and sniff out what your needs are. If you don’t make them known, they will remain locked in your mind, and you will have to go on without answers.
If you ask, the worst thing that can happen is that your request will be denied. But is that as bad as walking around with the burden and judgment of others for not reaching out and lending a hand?