3. Set goals
I for one seldom set any goals for myself back in the day. It was in those times that I could not move forward. I felt stuck in my job and didn’t see how things were going to change. That was until I started to implement actionable and attainable goals for myself.
When there is no goal you are working for, you waste time on anything and everything. There is very little purpose to what you are doing, and you might even start to feel like you don’t have a purpose.
Setting goals helps you to focus your efforts constructively, and paints an invisible map of the road to success. It provides you with a tool to see if you have grown as a person and gives direction to your future.
If you want to set these goals, try and find someone to whom you can be accountable. They will help you stay on track.
2. It’s not personal
At some point in time, we all have to face rejection. It’s never a fun experience, and it can either ruin your self-esteem, or you can learn from the rejection. Whatever, you do, you should never take rejection personally. You have no idea why your proposal was rejected, or why you were shot down when you asked someone out.
The reasons for the rejection are almost irrelevant because the lesson you stand to learn is priceless. Use the rejection as motivation to improve on yourself. There is no such thing as not good enough; however, there is such a thing as not the right time.
The only thing you need to do is to get back up and go at it again, so you will grow in confidence and mature into a better you.
In general, people are afraid to ask questions. The nature of the problems could either be for help, or it could involve info you want. Regardless, for some odd reason, we tend to fear what the response is going to be, or our pride gets in our way. Either way, we miss out on opportunities if we don’t ask questions.
Despite many people claiming they can read the future, no one can read your mind and sniff out what your needs are. If you don’t make them known, they will remain locked in your mind, and you will have to go on without answers.
If you ask, the worst thing that can happen is that your request will be denied. But is that as bad as walking around with the burden and judgment of others for not reaching out and lending a hand?