There has never been a greater experience of global empathy and community. Tap into that and build on that. This will help boost your mental health immunity and resilience. Whether that means weekly Zoom meet-ups with friends and family or joining an online community of like-minded strangers, it’s important to connect with people at this time. That being, it’s also important to distinguish between conversations you find helpful and those that are detrimental to your mindset. We are social creatures, relationships are key to our mental health. Having to self-isolate or practise social distancing may be difficult.
There are obvious ways to digitally connect through WhatsApp, Skype, and Facebook. Or even an old-fashioned phone call! But it can be worth thinking about some more imaginative ways. How about organising a group of friends to all watch the same movie and then meet up digitally to discuss it? You can have a ‘Netflix Watch Party’ with your friends and talk just as you usually would. If you have a skill, perhaps you could set up a Facebook live session and teach people to knit or draw. If you, or someone you know, don’t like using social media, make an agreement to write a letter or email to each other once a week.
Giving to others is a great way to boost our wellbeing. We know that it gives us a sense of purpose and creates feelings of positivity which are particularly important at times like this. So you may not be able to go out and volunteer at a community project but think about other ways you can give.
Sign up to one of the local Mutual Aid groups, donate food to a food bank or use an app like Nextdoor to connect to your local community. Think about people you know who are self-isolating and alone at home. Give them a call for a chat. Help and support others, helping others could make a big difference to them and make you feel better too. Find out how you can help out in your local area.
Over recent years, the idea of having a gratitude journal, the practice of regularly logging what you’re grateful for in your life, has become increasingly popular. And there’s a growing body of research to back-up the technique’s benefits. This not only includes boosting a person’s psychological health, but people who keep gratitude journals have also reported having fewer aches and pains, better self-esteem and improved sleep.
Reminding yourself of two to three things that you are grateful for is helpful to ease the mind at the end of the day. It can reduce those worrisome thoughts from creeping up right before bedtime. Even thinking of one thing a day can be helpful. Let it fill your heart and allow the energy of gratitude to come into your body.
Learning to identify the difference between real and hypothetical worries is key. Which worries can be helpful and which unhelpful? Which worries guide you to behave in a way that promotes yours and others’ growth, safety and security? And which are overwhelming and even debilitating? Talk about your worries – this is a difficult time for everyone and sharing how you are feeling and the things you are doing to cope with family and friends can help.
If you don’t feel able to do this, there are a range o helplines to be signposted to the support you need. Try to manage difficult feelings: Focus on the things you can control, including where you get information from and actions to make yourself feel prepared. Every Mind Matters provides further information on how to manage anxiety. If you’re struggling to see the difference, it is advisable to seek support from a licensed mental health professional.
How would you feel if a friend asked for help, advice or just wanted to talk things through? Many of us would be pleased to be chosen to confide in, it might make us feel valued. When you are feeling low in mood, or anxious, it is easy to think negatively about yourself and be less likely to seek support from others. Try to beat this feeling and approach people that you trust to talk to. You may be surprised at how much better you might feel and how they have responded positively to you, as you would if the situation were reversed.
These are simple, positive statements declaring specific goals. Beautiful and meaningful affirmations will uplift your day.These empowering mantras have profound effects on the conscious and unconscious mindset. We suggests starting with the words “I am”.
These are the two most powerful words in the English language. Use the present tense and state it in the positive. A great example of an affirmation that’s particularly apt for the times we’re living in now is: “I am in charge of how I feel and today I am choosing happiness. I am healthy and safe.”
24/7 news and social media can make you more worried. If you find this is affecting you, try to limit the amount of time you spend keeping up with what’s going on.
Get the facts: Use a credible source you can trust and fact check information that you get from newsfeeds, social media or from other people. Try not to share information without fact-checking against credible sources, too.
Focussing on your favourite hobby, learning something new or simply taking time to relax indoors should give you some relief from anxious thoughts and feelings and can boost your mood.
Do something you enjoy We are all unique and enjoy different things. You may not have found the thing that you enjoy yet, so try some different things out. You may have lost touch with activities that have given you pleasure in the past. Doing things you enjoy can help you to stay connected with some more positive aspects of life.
Some people like to read, to learn about the world, or escape into other worlds. Some people like to express their feelings through art, some like talking things through with others. Whatever your style, make sure you do express yourself – it will help you to stay connected, to discover more about you, your identity, and the person that you want to become.
Get outside or bring nature in: Spending time in green spaces can benefit both your mental and physical wellbeing. Sit in your garden if you can, open windows to let in fresh air or look at a nice view or some photos. Remember that social distancing guidelines enable you to go outside to exercise once a day as long as you keep 2 metres apart from others who are not members of your household group.
When you are feeling immersed in a problem, let yourself switch off from it and go and do something completely different. When you return to it at a different time it may seem more manageable. Distracting yourself is not a cop-out, but can be a reliable way to stop overthinking a problem when you are feeling stuck. So, how do you distract yourself? Listen to soothing music. Cuddle with pets. Eat your favorite snack or have a cup of tea. Take a long walk. Exercise.
Stay calm, be wise, be kind. Let’s take action to look after ourselves and each other as we face this global crisis. We may be physically apart, but we can still be together. Learn more or download the app at actionforhappiness.org
Take time each week to think of small actions you can take to create happiness for yourself and those around you. Action For Happiness provides scientific background, practical strategies, and opportunities for people to take action.
We all have them, and none of us is perfect either. It can be easy to think that others are more talented, more successful, have more opportunity than us, when you are feeling low in mood. But it is impossible to know how someone else is feeling inside, whatever they seem like on the surface. Remind yourself about the things you do well, and looking for evidence of this can help to balance out critical thoughts about yourself, which tend to increase when we are stressed.
The brain handles positive and negative information in different hemispheres,” said Professor Nass, who co-authored “The Man Who Lied to His Laptop: What Machines Teach Us About Human Relationships” (Penguin 2010). Negative emotions generally involve more thinking, and the information is processed more thoroughly than positive ones, he said. Thus, we tend to ruminate more about unpleasant events — and use stronger words to describe them — than happy ones.
Some of us may be struggling to get some ZZZs with all those negative thoughts swirling around our brains, but getting good sleep is one of the most important things you can do for your physical and mental health. When your mood is wearing down, so is your immunity, and one of the most valuable things your body needs is to simply rest. It’s during the state of rest that your white blood cells work their magic, so take a load off and get in that nap or go to bed earlier every night.
Think of sleep as banked power to improve your mood, reduce irritability and improve your ability to cope with stress. To do this, it is advisable to set up a relaxing bedtime ritual, such as having a bath or reading a book, using blackout curtains to block out the light, and going screen-free for 30 minutes to an hour before you get into bed.
You may feel bored, frustrated or lonely. You may also be low, worried or anxious, or concerned about your finances, your health or those close to you. It’s important to remember that it’s OK to feel this way and that everyone reacts differently. Remember, for most of us, these feelings will pass.
Staying at home may be difficult, but you’re helping to protect yourself and others by doing it.The tips and advice here are things you can do now to help you keep on top of your mental wellbeing and cope with how you may feel if you’re staying at home. Make sure you get further support if you feel you need it.