It’s not easy to stop comparing yourself to other people, especially in today’s world, where it seems like some people are perfect. They have large homes, new cars, always seem happy, and never lose patience with their children. They post all their happiness on their social media accounts, and you wonder what they did to get everything right and what you did to get mostly everything wrong. You can’t help but read their posts and see how everything seems merely perfect for them, even if you know in the back of your mind that it’s not true because no one is perfect.
It’s time to push aside the comparisons you make between yourself and other people. Make a mantra that you will repeat, so you will start to decrease this behavior. Promise yourself that you won’t worry about what other people are doing, how well things are going for them, or how they look. Instead, you will focus on your life and how wonderful it is.
If you have children and find yourself watching the “Care Bears,” you will meet a carebear named Laugh-a-lot. You want to spend your time noticing how much this bear laughs and incorporate this step into your life. While you might not think that laughing boosts your confidence, it does. It works in this way because it makes you feel happier and content with yourself, the people around you, and your life.
Laughter is truly the best medicine, but you will only learn this by laughing as much as possible. Of course, you also only want to laugh when it’s appropriate. But, you also want to spend time laughing with other people in almost any circumstance because this will brighten your day and their day. Sometimes you get tricked into thinking life is always serious, but it’s only this way when you allow it to be.
Like so many other people, you started sitting in your most comfortable clothing or even pajamas all day. You figured you weren’t going anywhere special. Maybe you didn’t go outside much because you live in a crowded city and couldn’t stick to staying 6 feet apart from other people. Maybe you started working from home, so no longer needed to worry about dressing to impress.
While this seemed great at first because you never really cared for your office attire, it also caused your self-confidence to decline slowly. You started focusing less on what you wore and maybe even let your hygiene fall to the wayside. If this sounds like you, it’s time to pick up the pace again. Take a shower, brush your hair, and get dressed to impress. You will feel better, and your confidence will start to come back to you. By taking this step, you will be amazed at how much confidence you gain quickly.
How many times do you lay awake at night and think about the mistakes you’ve made. You might go through the day and notice every error, or you might even think about something you did months or years ago. Suddenly, you find yourself thinking negatively. You may tell yourself that you need to be kind to people or have more patience for your children.
One of the best ways to start rebuilding your confidence is to not be hard on yourself. Remember that people – everyone- makes mistakes, usually daily, and there is nothing wrong with this. The key is to learn from your mistakes and focus on forgiving yourself. No matter what you’ve done, tomorrow is a new day. Take it as a new beginning and focus on living your best life by being kind to other people and you. It’s always important to be kind to yourself because your confidence starts with you. From there, people around you will see your spirit.
One of the best investments you can make in your life is investing in yourself. This concept is when you put effort into building on your skills and abilities. It helps you realize what you indeed are capable of and allows you to continue to blossom in ways that you never imagined. You have many skills, such as crafts, art, writing, music, filming, science projects – the list goes on. Take a moment to make a list of skills where you excel.
Now, it’s time to focus on ways to develop these skills. You don’t need to work on them all at once. Pick one or two skills and look at how they can grow. For instance, could you take a class? Could you practice your talent to increase? Maybe you will invest in becoming healthier by exercising and eating right. You might even develop an exercise routine and create a weekly meal plan.
Have you ever heard that the way you sit and stand can make you feel a certain way? One scientific study in 2018 found that students taking a math test felt less anxious when they didn’t slouch and instead sat erect in their seats, helping them perform better on the test because they felt more confident. This idea means that you can give yourself more confidence by doing the same thing – not taking a math test- but sitting straight and standing tall.
Focusing on your posture is an easy way to build confidence. The key is you need to take time to notice how you’re sitting and standing so you don’t end up slouching over time. Don’t worry if this action happens; just sit up or stand taller. Over time you will notice your posture becomes better without you thinking about it.
This notion is probably one of the most essential tips on this list. You haven’t seen your friends and maybe individual family members for months. Sure, you’ve talked on the phone, did a few Zoom video calls, and text, but this doesn’t mean you’ve seen them. You haven’t felt their presence or touch in months, which can bring anyone down in many ways. Think of it this way: if you feel withdrawn from the people you love and care about the most, your confidence will decline because your emotional needs and wants are all tied together.
Work out how you can re-connect with people close to you. If they’re comfortable with you coming over, then go for it. If you’re comfortable inviting them over, then get together. Maybe you will meet someone at a park or outdoors where you can stay farther apart but communicate.
You worked on building your skillset at work and then laid off for an undisclosed amount of time because of the current crisis. You were heading to a conference to give a presentation, but it’s canceled; now, you’re starting to feel like your accomplishments are taking a back seat. This task is challenging for everyone because there is a human psychological need to feel influential and accomplished.
Start by jotting down a task or two that you’ve wanted to accomplish over the last few months but haven’t yet. It doesn’t matter if it’s painting the living room or creating a vision board. Make a plan to complete the task and then focus on how accomplished you feel. Don’t think about how long it took you – focus on the finished product and how great it is.
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“Building Your Self-Esteem After Lockdown.” Karen Dempsey, The Awareness Centre. June 2020.
“Six Ways to Rebuild Your Confidence Post Lockdown.” Ase Anderson, the British School of Etiquette. June 2020.