2. Is this being shallow?
When answering questions on the internet, it is always a good idea to do an auto inspection before saying anything, so this rant by Whisper is by far the most epic one yet: “A lot of shockingly bad answers here from hypocritical men. Everyone likes pretty, by definition. That’s because pretty is defined as “the appearance that you like.” Many people start with this refrain of “shallow shallow shallow” when they talk about cosmetic surgery, not because they don’t like the results, but because they don’t want to appear “shallow shallow shallow” by caring too much about appearance…
But middle-to-upper-class people see appearance as something mutable and configurable, which can be chosen, something that you have. Judging someone based on it is like judging them on how they dress; it’s a bit weird to attach too much importance to it, but it tells you something about people’s taste and how much effort they are putting in. I am pre-surgery (except for breast implants because they can’t seem to make them look and feel quite right yet). If someone has the nerve to decide that they want a change and then follow through on it, and the competence to amass 5 to 15k in spare cash, that tells you a lot more about them than someone who just got lucky in the genetic lottery.”
