28. Challenge your most worrisome thoughts.
Have you ever stopped to think about how irrational most of the things that you worry about are? Furthermore, even when things that happen are bad – worse, even, than you could have expected – they are rarely the same thing that you expected. We often play bad situations in our minds to prepare ourselves for the impending shock of bad news that we know will come.
Nevertheless, this practice is the opposite of what we need to give ourselves the reserves of joy and strength to face those challenging times with grace and perseverance. When you find fearful thoughts running through your head, stop, and ask yourself how realistic they are. Then challenge those thoughts with a potentially good outcome that could happen instead. For example, maybe you won’t get laid off in the next round of corporate cutbacks. Perhaps you’ll get promoted because of the skills you have developed and the work ethic you have shown.